How wouldn’t you feel irrelevant? Everyone else around you seem to be living and enjoying a life you might never know. Sometimes, you begin to ask yourself the question — “Am I okay?”
“Like, am I a real human being?”
You don’t act like or talk like them. Most of the time, you don’t like the same things. Even worse, you don’t even have social media accounts. There’s no one for you to show off your beauty, wealth, or whatever specialty you possess. That is, if you think you have one.
“Why am I like this?” you ask yourself.
Now, I’m not about to go on a self-pitying rant about how Introverts this and extroverts do that. When I was younger, I used to do this a lot.
The older I get, the more I begin to realize it serves no purpose to pity yourself as a reaction to the behavior of others. Many events which play out in our lives are results of choice, and you my friend have the ultimate choice in your life. You are no doubt, the master of your life. Ultimately, you call the shots.
At least, that is, if you haven’t set Christ yet as the leader of your life. Something you should do. Human beings — yes, yourself included are imperfect, and we make mistakes. However, God does not, and it is about time that we “cast all our cares upon him”.
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What does this have to do with spending the holidays alone?
Well, part of understanding that events that play out in our lives are a result of choices means if you’re upset about spending the holidays alone; you can most likely do something about it. You don’t have to. You are not forced to. And if you feel that you have no choice but to, as in maybe health reasons, distance, or other factors.
Embrace it.
It’s not a bad thing. Why must we always equate being alone or not spending time with our social groups in– anticipation of also sharing with strangers around the world how much fun we’re having… (woof…that was a lot of writing)
Anyways, why do we view this as a bad thing? Spending time and holidays alone is no bad thing. I’ll tell you why you feel it is.
Because you’re comparing your lifestyle to that of others.
I believe we must truly learn to embrace every aspect of life. Loneliness included. Surely, too much of everything is bad but who’s to say next week, or even tomorrow, you’re not going to spend time with someone?
Just as the bible says, there’s a season for everything.
Some of us have decided not to go out, drink, eat and be festive during these times. For various reasons. I, for one, do not celebrate Christmas.
Let us embrace different lifestyles and different ways of spending our time. Living our own lives, and not shadows of what you think you should be living.
Dear friend, reading this, you cannot think you’re irrelevant for spending the holidays alone. Summer, Winter, all the above. You’re a person who has chosen (or not) to do so. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
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